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  1. Jack Mine

    Jack Mine The Pope of Assholiness

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    I don't ask myself shit. Because I already know the reason why my wife lost interest in sex. And maybe you should find out why? Communication is the most important thing in a marriage. Everyone will tell you that the most important thing is sex. Without communication how the fuck can you have sex? True, open, inhibited sex?

    Watching porn and getting off chatting has nothing to do with it. You're a guy! For crying out loud, you're a guy! You'll be jerking to porn and chatting off, even if your wife is fucking you constantly. Because that's what we do.

    Communication is the most important thing in life, not just in a marriage. If you can't open up, be honest, sincere and talk to your wife, she wasn't the one for you to marry. I wish you the best. Honesty, I don't know what the fuck this is all about, or what anyone said. Because they just kept going on and on, and wouldn't shut up. Good luck
     
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  2. Milo Cronos

    Milo Cronos The Sexual Intellectual

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    The hardest part for me has always been to read about the woman or man who doesn't speak up if they feel overburdened with the daily grind when they're clearly asked "what's going on?" Or the assumption of many women many times that a man not getting sex is because he doesn't carry his weight around the house or in other ways that take the direct burden off his wife. When a man or a woman decides to take on the lion's share of the responsibilities (as I did) for the sole purpose of having sex time available and over time the sex still gets thrown to the back burner, all those excuses of the martyr go away and your left with a selfish act of forced attrition!

    If you don't speak up your a fool and if your not heard then your not being listened to and that's the problem since sex is not held in it's highest regard throughout a lot of relationships. People become complacent with sex that it will find it's level and coast like love, bullshit sex needs to be cared to, nurtured and given willingly that if it doesn't feel that way? It's the burden of the person "holding out" to explain the reasons when confronted by this while they are still sought after, fail to do this and in the end you forfeit your right to deserve attention in this way if you do nothing. A person who needs love or sex will gravitate toward the attention of others if you lose focus, it's not as personal as it is the fact and actively keeping them away from it is your fault men and women alike!
     
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  3. geileklodders

    geileklodders Proud cum player

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    My first marriage ended up like this. I know for sure it wasn't because she had to work and when home had to do all the household chores. We always evenly shared the household duties and besides she had a part time job. So it wasn't for that.

    No, someway she was proud of herself having become that way. One day she proudly stated "we are a-sexual". I should have had the guts to say "speak for yourself" and cause a big fight, because she wasn't used to be criticized. Anyhow later I fell in love with a co-worker, something that never worked out because she didn't see me, but it made me realize that I should find my luck somewhere else and divorced her. I later found my second wife, who's been the love of my life for nearly thirty years now.
     
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  4. MissQueen

    MissQueen Sex Machine

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    My bf told me that his ex used to not give him any pussy so he would just wait until she went to sleep and fuck her
     
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      What a fucking guy
       
      dcf7, Aug 25, 2018
    2. MissQueen
      Why what a fucking guy is that a good thing or bad thing
       
      MissQueen, Aug 25, 2018
    3. dcf7
      Good
       
      dcf7, Aug 25, 2018
    4. MissQueen
      Why what a fucking guy is that a good thing or bad thing
       
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  5. Gilftastic

    Gilftastic Porno Junky

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    I think your boyfriend is talking shit.
     
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      Well he's not talking shit cause she told me the same thing but your entitled to your opinion
       
      MissQueen, Aug 25, 2018
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      If she was asleep how did she know?
       
      Jeffieboy, Feb 11, 2020
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  6. Gilftastic

    Gilftastic Porno Junky

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    Unless she's drugged, it's highly unlikely she's going to be sleeping while he fucked her.
     
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  7. Dildomechanic

    Dildomechanic Porn Star

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    A rule both sleep on the couch if going to fight... The bed is reserved for hott sex ... Saves a lotta marriages...
     
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  8. GemmaSwinger101

    GemmaSwinger101 Porn Star Banned!

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      LMAO,
      They are naughty, they love to cross pollenate. LOL..
       
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  9. catrina604

    catrina604 Porn Star

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    I woman should giver man sex. It is her duty as a woman to serve her man. i am no feminist but i believe women are here on earth to serve there man. Sorry feminists Hillary loving women.
     
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      Great thought .....
       
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      Catrina, that's only gonna work when men are only there to serve women. Otherwise it's the recipe for abuse.
       
      geileklodders, Aug 27, 2018
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      catrina just wants to get into catfights with feminists.
       
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  10. TN6969

    TN6969 Sex Machine

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    Crazy what happens when you make time and cook for a women.
     
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  11. catrina604

    catrina604 Porn Star

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    i know feminism has destroyed the natural order of things
     
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      It's sad
       
      TN6969, Aug 26, 2018
    2. submissively speaking
      This is a joke, right? You’re joking.

      Right?
       
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      actually hitler did !! when ww2 started all men went to war. so women left the kitchen and went to work. but then the men came home from war. and the women wouldn't go back in the damned kitchen. they had had their taste of independence and they sure weren't going back now. FUCK YOU HITLER !! :)
       
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  12. catrina604

    catrina604 Porn Star

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    it is so sad
     
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  13. nakkers

    nakkers Sex Machine

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    VNH,

    Would your wife say the same? Would she say things are 50/50? Would she say you are doing more? Or would she say she is doing more?

    If a couple of friends spend some time together, they would show more appreciation to one another with the shared experiences. Laughing, pat on the shoulder or a hug, it’s good to see you. Isn’t this fun? Etc.

    So, I don’t think the issue is the bedroom. I believe the issues are outside of the bedroom. Has either of you seeked counselling?

    It’s just my arm chair opinion. I’m sure you’ve had previous talks, arguments etc.

    Have you shared your fear with your wife? That you love her, miss her touch and affection and afraid she’s going to leave you once the youngest has left the house?

    Has she expressed her thoughts on the marriage? Is she happy with the way things are? What would she like to see from you?
     
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  14. bisara

    bisara Porno Junky

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    I saw this and read through the answers given, i find it difficult to comment on, firstly because i am not in a normal relationship that demands both partners to work and one partner to satisfy the others needs on a daily basis, while doing the majority of the domestic chores, myself and my partners have always shared the household duties, secondly , the demand for sex is different i think for same sex partners, i am more than happy to just kiss and cuddle, or tend to my lovers needs if she has had a bad day, third i find i am more than happy to switch into the role of being available to please my partner, i love sex but dont have to have it, fourth is i know when she wants to just feel comforted, also i know once i comfort her and show i care enough to find what is bothering her, it is usualy her that becomes romantic and will initiate sex, So guys try a little sensual caring and try to understand when she feels low selfesteme, give her a break if you have kids, share the house duties and most of all dont do the usual male thing and get pissed off if she doesnt respond to the need for a quicky, deep down we all respond to romantic things.
     
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  15. stan123

    stan123 Porn Star

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    Hello, Your relationship may not be that much different, it sounds like sex is still an important element of your relationship.
    What happens in a long term relationship is that for various reasons one of the couple has less desire or loses interest in sex and does not
    wish to communicate about it or consider it a problem. That is the common element with all of us who have problems of that nature.
    There may be other communication issues earlier on that later manifest elsewhere in the relationship.
    As a couple even if the initial lust wears off, there should still be feelings of sex being great or good and of the intimate and nurturing element
    of the relationship.
    What tends to happen in the problem cases somehow the bond of the intimacy breaks down in one of the partners.
    Either they become unhappy with themselves, life etc or whatever and they lose their interest to connect intimately with their partner to some degree.
    Health issues also may arise but I do not feel that it should kill of the feeling of intimacy even if it is not as sexual in nature as prior.
    It should mot be a total barrier to discuss it either.
    Even with age in a healthy relationship you should still have the feeling of being friends and still feel some affection.

    The issues are deeper than just sex.
    Some of them are a result of emotional manipulation or narcicism which includes sexual denial.
    Other may just be one person is so self centered that they only care about what they want and no longer love, need or care much about their spouse.
    Basically they are content living with you as a room mate and that's it they no longer feel they need to contribute anything else.
    And it if it is narcicism believe me it is such a confusing situation because the victim is deceived into thinking that they could do more,
    they can change things, or that they are even at fault. It is difficult to leave because the narcicist keeps baiting them and reeling them back in
    and when they have them its back to the same. It is a sad cycle because the victim either feels that they can change things to get back
    to how things once was in the past or feel that they can change the situation in the future making it good again.
    Unfortunately as per lots of advice and research I have seen the only thing one can do is educate themselves, and once certain that is
    the case leave the marriage or relationship. The message is clear that the naricicist will never change even though they claim they want to
    change or get help they never do.
     
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  16. stan123

    stan123 Porn Star

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    I am not the sole provider. we both work full time.
    I help wash dishes,help with the laundry, look after the house.
    She even threatened not to cook. I did not react out on that one.
    She says I don't do anything at home LOL.
    The only thing I did not do enough was to express appreciation.
    But now there is little to appreciate.

    It sounds like you did what you could correctly.
    Just like me you were stuck with the wrong person anyhow.
    People can hold back many things even for years. Before we discover what they truly are.
    The fact you were always compared to someone else and hubby was never satisfied sounds a lot like my situation.
    Face it I think you were likely dealing with an emotional manipulator and exiting the situation is the only solution
    once you have tried everything and tormented yourself enough trying to find a solution which you likely were the only one who was seeking it.

    I have learned as well, be open and put much more emphasis on finding the right person.
     
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  17. Dildomechanic

    Dildomechanic Porn Star

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    Old story " my wife ran off with her boss! I miss her boss!"
     
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  18. thinskin

    thinskin Porn Star Banned!

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    There is always polyamory or the caveman!!;)

    Thinskin
     
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  19. Dildomechanic

    Dildomechanic Porn Star

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    Divorce recovery- after kids leave the nest the issue is why stay. together? Time for marriage counseling... Serial monogamy is not a reason to stay married. ... A friend advised me " lets face it she is a bitch" that was consise summary from a person who knew both of us.
    Time for other options ...
     
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  20. Dick_Lava

    Dick_Lava Sex Lover

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    Empty nest...almost 40 years married...sexless marriage...am ready for exit strategy...girlfriend 20 years younger wants me to move in with her...a beautiful Aztec princess...

    I want to marry her...life is short

    She has only had 5 other lovers...made her cum 3 times first time together
     
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